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My belief in the inevitable failure of 95% of high school relationships to last until marriage exemplifies this.

The majority of high school students want to fit in.

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It’s simple – if you’re in a relationship, you fit in, but you don’t Another reason high school relationships fail is due to the fact that to the people who are in them: teenagers.

This is probably going to earn me criticism from my peers, but honestly, we are not the most mature bunch. I’ve separated the people in high school relationships into three categories (inspired by my brilliant Latin teacher): Those who care about themselves intentionally: These are the people who date because they want the relationship, not the other person in the relationship.

I see this more than I would like to, but in a myriad of cases the feeling is mutual among the participants of the “relationship”.

0% of these relationships survive, because essentially, they aren’t relationships to begin with.

Those who care about themselves unintentionally: This is a difficult category.

Here’s how my Latin teacher explained it: imagine two people dating. Joe: Oh Janice, I love the way you make just want to die!(of happiness, I guess) Notice how prominent “me” is.I obviously exaggerated this to prove my point, but in a lot of relationships – not just those found in high school – person A will claim to care about person B, but in fact person A only cares about person B because they’re trying to satisfy themselves. Those who care about the other person: This is where I make myself doubt that even 5% of high school relationships truly succeed, because getting to this level of trust with another person is impossible until one possesses significant maturity and independence.This group is reserved for the love between parent and child, sibling and sibling, and other rare circumstances – imagine how much time you would have to spend with a person until you could achieve that with them. To love someone to the point where you would sacrifice your own well-being, sacrifice it, not just “I would catch a grenade for ya” sacrifice, but promising eternal faithfulness and unconditional understanding – that is the zenith of a relationship. All of those detract from the depth of a relationship, and because those things are so prevalent in high school, they decrease the amount of successful relationships.Thinking about that hurt my head a little, so I’ll move on to other more simple reasons why these relationships don’t last: Sex. Not to mention college – I might write a post later on about why long distance relationships fail, if I have time. Maybe I should start a series called “Sunday Morning Cynicism.” I want to end this delightful post by saying that I do not intend to offend anyone – I have several friends in relationships and wish them the best.Basically, you can promise your significant other that you’ll love them even when you’re miles, countries, or worlds apart – but it’s easier said than done. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.” – Leo F. This is just my personal opinion, and others are free to argue.

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