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Mary rushes away from her desk at work, eager to get home so she can check her e Harmony and profiles.

Some people have a glass (or a bottle) of wine; Mary has romance.

Without doubt, healthy romantic love is a beautiful thing. In truth, when individuals are preoccupied to the point of obsession with falling and/or being in love, they tend to behave in highly regrettable ways– just like alcoholics, drugs addicts, compulsive gamblers, compulsive spenders, sex addicts, etc.

And over time love addicts inevitably experience the same basic consequences: depression, anxiety, lowered self-esteem, ruined relationships, trouble at work or in school, declining physical and/or emotional health, financial woes, loss of interest family, friends, hobbies and other previously enjoyable activities, and more.

Generally speaking, love addicts are people whose ability to self-regulate, reduce anxiety and remain hopeful about the future rests almost entirely on the neurochemical rush of new romance – that wonderfully exciting time when the other person’s thoughts, actions and very existence are the most important things on earth.

In this ephemeral relationship stage the other person seems endlessly fascinating, and his or her character flaws (the things that eventually become bothersome) are easily ignored, mostly thanks to the release of dopamine, along with oxytocin, serotonin, adrenaline and various other endorphins, into the rewards center of the brain.

Importantly, this neurochemical reaction matches the neurochemical surge wrought by addictive sexual fantasy/activity and drugs of abuse.

So it’s no real surprise that new romance can be just as addictive as sex or cocaine.

…this neurochemical reaction matches the neurochemical surge wrought by addictive sexual fantasy/activity and drugs of abuse.

It’s important to state that love addicts are not hooked on love.

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